After all excitements got over, we returned to our usual life, dreaming of meeting all again and doing lots of fun and dance in Lali’s marriage. It was somewhere around June starting. I was waiting for my last day at Infy which was on 14th June. But one day, suddenly(again!) Chakli called me that Lali’s marriage is on 11th June. She just mailed on mithu. I was like what, why, how so early and this and that. I checked the mail and it was true. I called up Chakudi to tell the news. Her reactions were also similar. We all had idea that her wedding would take place in September and now to come to Ahmedabad on 11th June, in such short notice, seemed to be next to impossible. Everybody had their reasons and confusions.
Me: As I mentioned, I applied for resignation on 14th June and formalities for this was going on. Also, I already had taken unplanned leaves and project required me for last moment knowledge transfers and all. And most imp, since I was in Chandigarh, train tickets were not available. I had to come there by plane from Delhi. Going to Delhi airport from Chandigarh by bus and metro and all was a big task itself coz I have never done that. That too just for 2 days.
Chashmish: She was in Pune, she had to come by bus. Though it was relatively easy for her to come, she has adjusted her assignments for the Saturday i.e. on 11th June itself! She had to readjust it.
Chakli: She and her fiancé had planned to visit Ahmedabad next week from Lali’s marriage so that they could meet. During that week, it wasn’t possible for him to come. If she comes in that week, she has to take lot of leaves.
Chakudi: I don’t think she had some problems, maybe she was confused whether she will get leaves or not.
I called up Lali, asked her all “wh” questions. She told me that she has got her job and joining in June end. So the families and all decided for this date. I told her all the problems we have in coming. I was angry and confused and scolded her too for giving such short notice period, harassed everybody else for seeing plane and train tickets whichever available. Till 2-3 days, we discussed what should we do. I felt many times like not going. Everybody was in same state of mind. Actually apart from our problem, we got disheartened coz we have dreamt a lot about marriage that we would wear this, we will dance like this, we will sit next to the bride and tease her, will come 15 days before to help, we’ll eat this, we’ll manage the reception and all ceremonies, will have great time and this and that and what not. But we will not be able to do so and Lali’s wedding was to be done in simple manner.
Whatsoever it was, finally we all decided to come whatever it takes. After all, “hum ek bar jite hai, ek bar marte hai, shaadi bhi ek hi baar hoti hai aur pyar bhi ek hi baar hota hai.”(a dialogue from Kuch Kuch hota hai) Lali many times told us that it would be all right if you ppl don’t come, but we said, “Lali, it’s YOUR marriage and it’ll come only once in lifetime. Tara mate maan chhe, tane kya bhaan chhe…we’ll come even if you don’t tell us.”
One decision making process got over and second started. GIFT??? Gift was in discussion for 7-8 days!!! Gold, bags, any electronic instrument, mobile, sari, dress all kinds of options were suggested and discussed deeply in mithu’s mail chain, on phone, with friends, with our parents, with Lali’s parents and with Lali too J Lali’s usual reply was-“I don’t require anything, I have everything. Whatever you give, I will surely like it.” I actually made a table of what gift had what pros and cons(as per my habit)
| Gift | Pros | Cons |
| Gold/Silver earrings k sikko/American dimond nu kaik | Saru lagse | It may become out of budget |
| Mobile | Lali ne finally saro mobile malse, budget ma b avi jase jevo joito hy evo. Am b e navo kharidvani j chhe. | Ene mongho joie chhe k sasto e nath khabar. I called her up to ask her. She said, she doesn’t have any idea abt it. But she’ll inform us |
| Ipod | Eni pase jo mobile nai ave to b at least gito to sambhli shakse. | Lali navo mobile levani j hy to ene ipod nib au jarur nai pade. |
| Sadi/dress material | Bahu j badha options mali rese | Eni pase already gift ma avani hase ghani badhi. |
J Everybody talked different things. Finally one day, my mom visited a nearby jeweler and called me to tell me that she’s gonna take pair of gold earrings for Lali. Everybody agreed. She had 2 of options-American diamond gold or pure gold. She called Lali and Lali said she would love diamond earrings hence FINALLY big gift chapter got over. And since its mithu, there has to be something special, some surprise gift, sweetest memories. So we decided to give her a photo diary with some comments written by mithu. Some of those pics were so nice, I feel like showing them to the world on facebook. After all the long discussions and confusions we were finally happy that whole mithu will be again together after such a long time. We were waiting for the moment to come…
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